Love SunFlowers and SunFlower Seeds

Mothers: Connie, Bonnie, Vivian, Iris, Pandora, Elaine and Angelina came together on 28th Feb 2008 at Thai restautant King and I, APM to sharing our experiences in loving each other's daughters.

Connie shared her experience of being the loving auntie of Michelle (15).

• it's an open and sweet friendship with Michelle


• why what my friendly approach on Michelle could not be done for my sons

Bonnie shared her experience of being the loving auntie of Elsie (11/12).

• it's fun to share my teenage experience with Elsie


• I inspire her perception in how to appreciate the relationship with her mother by taking initiative approach

Lucy shared her experience having daughter Elsie (11/12) being friend with auntie bonnie.

• Elsie is serious and happy about the appointment with auntie bonnie


• Elsie had some bold decision on color upon learning how to idenfy one's signature color from auntie bonnie

Elaine share her experience having daughter Dorcas (8/9) being friend Michelle (15) and auntie bonnie.

• Dorcas feels more relax and inspired after each appointment with Michelle and auntie bonnie


• Dorcas found her idea was respected by the group

Then, we confirm the SunFlower Project is an optional 1 on 1 relationship building between girls between 8 - 15 with aunties without any required intention and mandatory to building other sisters' daughter to become a disciple.

We would like to see elder SunFlower girls will take the younger SunFlower seed girls. Their relationship will look like, from Kingdom Kids to big-small sisters to campus peers to MOK wives to MK mothers within the Kingdom.

All MK mothers are welcome to voluntarily participate as the loving auntie. They can start as an observer (attending auntie-girl meeting as a visitor). A bi-annual meeting will be held to sharing convictions, experiences and pitfalls. Hoping that by loving other sisters' daughters, we will be able to reflect our personal motherhood mind set and behavior on our own daughters. Thus, we could be able to be an "objective" mother as the domestic helper to help God to take care his treasure.

2007 groups

• Connie loves Michelle (15)


• Bonnie loves Elsie (11/12)


• Bonnie and Michelle (15) love Dorcas (8/9)


• Iris' daughter, Merrie (17) is helping in Michelle's (15) Bible Study

2008 new groups to add on

• Iris loves Pearl (8)


• Elaine loves Jadie (8)

Observers: (before you will commit to become a loving auntie, observing others' practises are welcome)

• Angelina

Under matching groups

• aunties : Vivien and Pandora


• girls : Janice, Cherrie and Jasmine

more to come in 2008/9

• aunties : MK mothers


• girls : Chi Ying and Lok Tong

action plan :

1. Bonnie to send an group email to MK mothers reminding about the link to read the "Long Road" booklets where teenager-mothers sharing their victories and struggles.


2. Bonnie and Connie will be the coordinator for this optional project by providing collective information and organize gatherings among mothers.


3. The next meeting will be in Mid Sep 2008.

Mother's sharing

Dearest Sisters,

Very appreciated for all hearty love our daughters in time. They are lucky in our Church for the First Generation named of “Sun-Flower” --- Very Nice, Beautiful, Sunshine, Active, etc. ….

I will thankful to Bonnie create this idea to lead and lovely my daughter, Elsie since Mid 2007. They were gathering once a month. Unless, they have on busy time, i.e. Exam, school opening or competition on time. Otherwise, did not stop it.

Every month, Elsie has remind me that she will contact Bonnie lala by call or e-mail confirm the date, place and time. She has very insist, expectation, honestly and joyful the time with Bonnie too.

She tells me after their gathering for something happen, advantage our close-knit time, e.g. …….

(1) One time, Bonnie taught her how to wear underwear and Bonnie share her afraid in her teen period for body changing. I am a mother, I did not think to tell her about it ?????

(2) They were to taste some delicious cakes in different coffee cafés and take some photos for memory.

(3) Bonnie and Michelle are taught her which colour to match her, so she choice a pair of glasses in Orange colour. What, I did not think she cans choice?? This idea suggest by them. Well, it beautiful looks.

(4) Auntie Bonnie likes to buy some good taste special, better, interesting, kid present, gift to her son and her friends. Buy some gift to Elsie.

(5) Elsie can talk to free with Bonnie. Bonnie is her best friend. They were not the generation gap inside, she felt interesting, update and novel, happy, enjoy and relaxed.

(6) Elsie focus and follow up Michelle style manners, appearance looks, fellowship and friendship with her.

Sharing in there now.

Sorry that I cannot join your Lunch gathering on 28 Feb (Thursday), but I will really to hope co-operate together. Please contact me if any help in program.

Blessing by God to lead. Enjoy it.

Hope you can understand my hard English writing.

Love,
Lucy
26.2.2008

Message for the SunFlower Mothers

I am very happy now.

Recalling the most difficult time for me as a mother when Benjamin was not working in Hong Kong and my own business workload was tremendous heavy with lots of traveling during 2000 to 2002. At that time, Terence and Michelle was 11 and 8 years old respectively.

My personal life motto is, “Let me enrich my life by creating memories”. I am happy that recently (2008) Terence told me that he has nice memories for his childhood and now he wants to create memories by shooting memorable moments on to photo with his soon departing classmates.

As a mother, I and my children mostly remember a couple of people in my children’s lives:

1. Phillip (P&G) spent time with Terence and Michelle by taking them to his office. Michelle remembers very well and we talked about this when we met with Phillip, Winner and his 3 years old son in 2008 CNY Sunday.

2. Jonathan practiced running with Terence when Terence prepared for his Year 7 school 5km running competition at Wan Chai. When we talked about this in year end of 2007, Jonathan said thanks Turner’s suggestion at that time. In fact it was a challenge to him. Yet, Terence remembers well about their running together.

3. Lai played funny posture with Terence.

4. Mike played the animal game with the children and parents in the family devo at my home at Bremar Hill.

5. Last but not least, Yumika came to my home before 7am to prepare lunch box for Michelle when I was away for business trip and Wati was on holiday home.

In last Home Sunday in Feb 2008 by watch Steve’s DVD on “weakness” and “hardened heart”, Doris has a very good conviction that, “The one who is willing to show her weakness and accept other’s help, in turn is giving blessing to the one who offers help.”

I am glad that I was in weakness than closing up myself in 2000 to 2002. Now I could have my children grown up healthily.

Once my husband complimented me as his good wife. His theory was that husband is the partner in guard of his wife (giving advice before she is out of track and she has to listen). A good mother has to be patient enough to bring her children to understanding and discerning. Partly of a successful wife is to being a successful mother.

Once again, I am very happy now. I had difficult time and been got help from brothers and sisters around me. As my children have grown up, I have more time to contribute now. I want to love children of other brothers and sisters as they have done on me. This is the way of “fan the flame” in the bible.

Are we willing to take up the spiritual torch and pass on the spirit as what Olympic is doing before the opening. Everything begins with a grateful heart, including our motives in doing anything and lives on day by day. If we do not feel like that, we should ask ourselves WHY.

Moreover, young adults do not like being taught because they are ideal dreamers. They like to see something real – which is modeling. Their rebellious comes from seeing the injustice and unrighteous of the adult or the world. Shall we focus on their mistakes and misbehavior or ours first? Furthermore, why don’t we give them a chance of involvement? Learning by experimenting is a good way of learning. When they take care the younger ones, they begin to understand how their parents are taking care of them.

Fun in Art Museum - Feb 2008

While I was struggling where the girls (Michelle 15, Elsie 12 and Dorcas 9) prefer to go; the Art Museum or the Space Stadium, they voted straight for the Art Museum. Isn't it a surprise?

I recognize most children prefer the Space Stadium because it is fun there. However, when our lovely daughters growing bigger, they want something different. It reminds me that being a mother should look at our daughters newly in everyday. Our used way of thinking and piloted perspection per experience may hinder their choices of exposure. Let's have an open mind, mothers?!