We love first so our children learn to love.

After a long week of rainy days, today is a blessed sunny day. We had plan to go for a war game but due to the time strain, we decided to have a diversity activities fusion at KC's club house.

Since tomorrow is the father's day, let me make a count on the fathers first: KC, Shing, Ivan and Benjamin.

How about the mothers: Margaret, CarLai, Bonnie and Belinda.

Then our children: Joshua, Gabiel, Laier, Peter, David, Shawn, Terence, Michelle, Leo, Yvonne.

Altogether how many of us? 5 families and 18 members................we still miss Ivan's wife, Candy and their younger son. Yes, we also miss Belinda's husband (3).

WHY are we together? We decided to provide an environment to let us and our children to learn how to love each other. (Be humble to love but not using any of our past knowledge. Love requires renewal wisdom.)

WHAT are we going to do? We do not need to decide exactly what we are going to do but let the flow leads us (God has his plan). What we have to remember clearly is our motive of doing so --- TO LOVE. In every gathering and interaction, are we loving each other? (not to do any loving action but to presence with love)

HOW do we make this happen? We (to) open each of ourselves, sharing our life honestly. KC shared his schooling pictures with us. If we are open, we are simple. (love has no fear and we are not fear to share everything.)

I was happy to see these scenes:

• Terence and Peter were enjoying conversations with KC, Shing and Benjamin (an adult talk).
• Laier played hard with David.
• Joshua was paired with Shawn.
• Michelle talked with Uncle Ivan (like a mature young lady).
• Terence and Peter were drowning in their jam (music).
• CarLai has passed her heartbeat test by staying in the band room for over 30 mins.
• Belinda player badminton with Leo and Yvonne.
• CarLai taught Michelle to succeed a big strike in bowling.
• Magaret, CarLai and Bonnie could not stop their talking.
• Benjamin played Tennis with KC in such a hot morning.
• Shing has quiet fellowship with Ivan though he worked overnight - no sleepy sign at all.
• We finished 4 big pizza.

A Matter of Priority

What are we focusly doing right now? Where do we spend most of our thoughts and energy? --------It's a matter of Priority.

In "Seven Habbits", they put priority under two categories - Importance and Urgency and segmentize in to 4 Zones:

1. Important and Urgent
2. Important and not Urgent
3. Urgent and not Important
4. Not Urgent and not Important

The 2nd Zone is said to be the best among the 4 as it is important but still have enough time to carry out or even crafting to its best. Thus, urgent is just an external push (should) for its happening but not an inside out (needs) or (wants).

Well, if weighting life priority according to its Importance, what are they? I know different stage of life has different important issues of concern, so as different person has his/her different views. Does God has a truth answer for this crucial question?

Life as a whole is important to live to love and to be loved. Core elements for love are people, time, relationship, interaction, conversation, experience, memories, trust and etc......... If we want to lead our children to understanding the truth of love, what will we prepare for them?

A school? A home?.................these are the places or environment.

A knowledge? A role? ...........these are the input and output stuffs.

If thinking from the stand of a computer, a good software seems the most important. What is the software of LOVE? A prgram knows every possible step, interaction, change and consequence of love............A Loving Microsoft.

WORDS : how to write our life story with love

EXCEL : how to weight our life balance with love

POWERPOINT : how to present our life picture with love

FRONTPAGE : how to build our weblife with love

OUTLOOK : how to communicate with love and delete junk mails

PUBLISHER : how to create our self-identity with love

ACCESS : how to store and categorize our data neatly for real time retrieval and management analysis with love

While I am thinking and writing this message, I got an inspiration that I may start to ask my teens:

• "If you are going to choose a software for your life, what would that be?"
• "What are the core value (operational system) that must be included in your software?"
• "What would you expect this life software could help you to achieve in your life project?"
• "What kind of life management reports do you require in order to help you managing your operation neatly and healthy?"
• "Do you want to have a user-freindly program? or you are a skillful and advanced user one which require some unique and sophiscated features? If yes, what are they and why you need them?"
• "In order to fully utilize and maximize your investment for this software, do you need any support?" If yes, "what are they and why?"
• "Does you software enable import and export functions so that it could interface well with other forms?"
• "Does you software compatible with other model so that you have less limitation?"
• "Could you predict how much data volume you expect your server to provide in order to run this software and your data in a normal good speed, but not overloaded?"
• "Do you have a maintenance policy with your hardware?"
• "Do you have a auto-upgrade agreement with your software provider?"
• "Do you have a backup plan for your program and data?"
• "Do you use any password?"
• "How often do you check the bugs and virus?" and "What anti-virus program are you using?"

Choosing a software program just like choose the foundation for one's life; prarble of build a house on sand or on the rock. Matthew 7:24-27

What is your choice?

Let our daughters to know God

I had share-time with Sachiko for lunch and later with Belinda in a group in the evening of yesterday. We recognized that our children are all in teens; they are Michelle, Miko and Yvonne. Jessica has recently not coming for Sunday, we missed her and care about her spiritual life.

Mike is 15, Michelle and Yvonne are 14. I started to think, "What is the most important thing for them at life of this age?" Before that I would ask, "Why I have a sense that it is an important age of their lives?"

There is only 3-4 years ahead untile they turn 18 as an indpendent adult, or 6-7 years to become 21 as a legally responsible adult. How would I like to help them to equip themselves in order to become a responsible adult to walk through their lives in fullfilment of joy and fruitfulness.

How to become a successful person? >> people will think of good education, special skill, awesome inter- and intra-personal relationship and then a good job and good income...

How to become a good person? >> people will think of good character, temperament, kind heart and willingness in giving and no compliant in suffering.

Then, in God's eye, how to become a good child in Him? >> I will think of to know God well, to walk His way, to love, to serve, to deny onself, to co-work with God, to submisive in God's plan, to enjoy God's grace on us.

Will there be any contradictary of being a successful, good person and at the same time a good disciple? I see NO. Instead, lots of bible teachings are in fact a wisdom in building us as a successful and good person in the godly way that also pleasing God.

I would believe that in order my daughter can walk her life in the way with joy and fruitfulness, I should bring her close to God first.

SunFlower - Elsie/Jun 2007

This was the first time we met on the first date of the month. Uny has already re-opened and renamed as APITA. In fact, the internal layout is still almost the same.

Due to Elsie has always had to attend her English tuition after our SunFlower gathering, we could not go beyond TaiKooShing area. Though we have a plan to taste as many cake shops as we can, eventually we could only work within Pokka or UCC. It's OK for me as I enjoy the interaction with Elsie more than the food.

Elsie is really growing. I found that she is now taller than her mother. She is anxiously waiting for the secondary school designation result in Mid of July. I silently pray for her to get in to a right school.

We went to UCC and as usual and ordered 2 tea sets. Elsie has made the prayer instead of me. I found she is familiar and confident in leading prayer. Awesome!!!!!!!

Firstly, I showed her my Suzhou pictures, letting her to know who is the Suxiu master I met and a general outlook for the service apartment I have stayed and the general Suzhou scenaries. I also showed her the zucchine harvested from my tiny organic farm in my mom's home town.

That made Elsie to knowing auntie bonnie more that, she summaried in to two areas - "Nature" and Suzhou Embroidery". It is so true.

We fell in to an interesting conversation to distinguishing the difference between an ordinary auntie and a disciple auntie. Elsie said:

• Appearance : they are the same and cannot be distinguished.


• Behavior : Ordinary aunties spend their time in shopping and much talking (may be she means gossip) but disciples aunties choose to go to Bible Talk and Quiet Time gatherings.

It is amzed to learn of such observation from a girl of eleven years old. I plugged in and asked her, "Do you want to become a disciple?"................."Yes." a very confirmed answer.

I, then asked her , "Do you know how is the transition to become a disciple?" She seems understanding that there requires a bible study process. I asked her to recall her mother's case. She has well awared that May and CJ have both helped her mother in Bible Study. Moreover, she found most important is that she likes her reborn mother and would never wants her mom to go back to the OLD Self.

Our little girls (daughter) are always a smart observer in witnessing our every step of life and its changes. They are indeed discerning.

I grasped the chance to tell Elsie that in order to becoming a disciple, it is very important for one to understand one's relationship with God and his/her salvation from our Goldly Father. And then make a committed decision to follow God in his/her life. It is a matter of life decision.

Today, there was a TV star sitting next to our table. We do not know her name but she was said to be the girlfriend of Leung Wing Chun.

Since we had about 20 minutes left behind, Elsie wanted to browse around the shopping mall. I took her to walk in to BodyShop to understand what are they selling. Elsie told me that she rarely walk in to this kind of shop. And I found out that she is not fond of any fragrance or creamy stuff on to her skin. Yes, she is a sporty girl.