I made a big mistake today. After lunch, I was drowning in creating a new blog for my "Organic Psychology". With too much concentration, I fell asleep in mid of my work. Suddenly the telephone rang and Michelle told me that she's on the way home from school and request me to prepare some food for her. I, then, requested Wati to prepare the "butter corn". At the same time, Elsie called me and told me that she was waiting for me at the TaiKooShing. "Oh! No. I missed the time." It's already 4:40pm and I should have met Elsie at 4:30pm.
Since I have already lost 40 mins, we chose a nearby coffe shop for our usual afternoon tea - POKKA. Elsie ordered an ice-cream on french caramel pudding and I ordered a pumpkin with black sesama dumpling.
I was curious to ask Elsie about her " 曹操Project". She will have the group presentation in the class next Tuesday. Since Elsie was the one in charge to produce the power point slides, she will speak less in the presentation. She told me that she understood my comments on her work and she has adapted for some changes. Well Done!
As one of the important parts of our date, we prayer together for our friendship. I asked Elsie that how much she understand what I like up to now. Elsie rolled her eyes and said, "Auntie bonnie likes plants and nature."
"Yes, I am. Your observation is absolutely right." I, then continued to tell Elsie about my Organic farming project in China that the pumpkin and Zucchini are healthily growing while we failed on the tomato (they need a greenroom environment).
Elsie also curious to know how much I understand her after the past few months. I told Elsie that my observations are:
- You are growing from a girl to a teenager. I could see you are longing for more room for yourself, such as your own time, your own thinking and your decisions.
- On the usual Sunday morning QT with the mothers, you are in a dilema of age in between of two groups of peers; one is Janice and Cherry group which you used to get along with are younger and less mature than you, and the other group is Michelle and Miko group which you feel a bit far apart in some unknown senses. Thus, sometimes you just stay quiet and do your own reading.
We both enjoyed very much the conversation by being honest to each and share what is there. Elsie told me that she could not talk with her mother like being with me because her mother is more concern on her daily living and studies. Those conversation always falls in to one-way traffic of ordering or demaning. Elsie does not feel to have room for a causal conversation between her mother.
I was bold enough to ask Elsie about her observation on any change of her mother after become a disciple.
Elsie said, "Yes, sure there is a difference. My mother becomes more relax and calm in handling matters and situation. Before she was in a stage of anxiety for everything, in particular about our school studies. Yes, she has changed."
Elsie has showned her appreciation on her mother's change through God.
I also told Elsie that while you are growing and getting more mature, surely your mother will give you more idenpendence. What you have to do is to be patience to take one step a time. In return, Elsie should also be expressive enough to exchange friendship talks with her mother.
"Yes, I will."
