Women Servant

I was not in Hong Kong on 23rd Dec 2007 for the church's 20th anniversary banquet but in Singapore for a family reunion and attending my sister's house warming party. This Christmas is a special year for me because I was awarded "Women Servant" in our church as my service in the Women under the Cross Ministry.

After I returned to Hong Kong, I received the medal marked "Abraham - Sacrifice" from Doris. I began to think do I deserve for the award? Yes and No.

As I was told that the award is a recognition of my service to the Golden Girls in the church. It may mean I had organized 2 retreats for the GGs, serving in the GG House Church and what else.......?

To me, it may mean my love to the elders. I love them. I see their strong perseverance in the tough days, their sacrifice for their children and they deserve a warm and joyfully elder life before they will pass away.

I lost my father who died for illness 17 years ago when he was only 60 years old. I could not see him off as I was living in Canada. I, then flew back Hong Kong with my two toddlers children for 3 months to accompany my mother to go through her the toughnest time. I recognized that there are always not much time leave behind when you aware you need to love your parents. Since then, I found I love my mother much more. I hold her hands when outing, buy her gifts when special occasions and bring her everywhere I go.......

She now is even living in the same community with me so that we can meet almost every other day. We are good friends and even neighbour admires our good relationship. My daughter also praises me that I am a good daughter in taking good care of the mother.

In year 2003 I had made a power point slide about "The Parents" where I wrote, "If you want to be loved by your children when you get old, you better love your parent first." I love my children but not to the extent to cut my love to my mother. I found some of the family are over-whelming their love to their children that they almost forget their elder parents as a fact they claim - babies are lovely and elders are ugly. It is true that both new born babies and some over 70s elders are using pampers, require spoon feeding and bathing. However, the treats are totally in different attitude and atmosphere. Why?

If we feel like that we may corrupt our dignity as a human being. I like a poster in the MTR say, "we come to the world with lots of loving welcome, please let us pass away with diginty as well." Please love your parents before it is too late.